Our society has been inundated by media in all forms: print, digital, social, audio... With the outlets available to brides as they begin looking for ideas about what type of gown they might like to wear down the aisle, becoming overwhelmed is easy. Type “wedding gowns” into the Pinterest search bar and a bride will be immediately able to access thousands of photos of all sorts of different looks. So, in 2018, among all these seemingly inexhaustible options and sources of inspiration and Pin Boards and Instagram, how is a bride supposed to choose The One?
The answer to that question is both multi-faceted, yet intimidatingly simple: with purpose.
Common questions I’m asked by many women who shop with us at Sposa Bella are What if I fall in love with the first gown I try on? Will I cry? What if I end up loving more than one? How will I know this is my gown?
Let’s break these questions down and talk about the answers to each.
What if I fall in love with the first gown I try on?
This happens more often than you think. It’s perfectly fine to choose the first one you try on! The good part about loving the very first gown is that you now have a means of comparison. If you continue to prefer the first gown to all other subsequent gowns, it’s probably the one for you! Also, do not feel obligated to try on a dozen different gowns after the first one. If you try on four or five more and still love the first, that is usually an even better indicator that the first gown is your gown!
Will I cry?
Who knows? You might. If you’re a crier, you’ll probably cry. If you’re not, you probably won’t...or you might. Sometimes, the bride cries because her mom/sister/best friend/future M-I-L gets teary. Sometimes, the bride cries because the Oh-my-goodness-I’m-actually-getting-married-to-the-perfect-partner registers. Either way, no, the gown does not have to make you cry to be considered The One. I promise! We’re well stocked with tissues regardless!
What if I end up loving more than one?
This happens to many brides. The fun part is that the two (sometimes three or four!) gowns are occasionally utterly different from one another. Just take a deep breath, close your eyes, and imagine… You’ve purchased your gown and are driving home. You chose gown A. How do you feel? Now imagine the same scenario with gown B.
How will I know this is my gown?
Ultimately, choosing your gown comes down to one simple concept: Which gown simultaneously makes you feel most like yourself, but also like your vision of yourself as a bride? The gown that accomplishes both of these tasks is your gown.
Now, while I write this, I understand that not all women experience anxiety or stress when they are tasked with choosing a gown. I had a bride about a year ago who put on two gowns (yes, just two!) and was able to choose between them.
The rest of us mortals may need a little more guidance.
All of the gowns are beautiful. I know! We struggle to choose only 20 each season! Just bear in mind that there will always be another gown, another designer, another season, another batch of options. Shopping for your wedding gown is as much of a process as you’re willing to let it become. When you put on a gown that makes you feel beautiful, confident, and, most importantly, like yourself, you’ve found your gown! But, when you make that choice, mean it. Choose that gown for you!